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Understanding the role you played as a child can be a powerful tool for personal growth and success as an adult. The dynamics you experienced in your family often shape your beliefs, behaviors, and habits, which can either empower or limit you in adulthood.
In many families, children may adopt specific roles to gain acceptance, attention, or approval, especially in dysfunctional or stressful environments. Here are some common stereotypical roles that children might assume:

The Hero (or Overachiever):
Often the oldest child, this individual takes on a lot of responsibility and strives for perfection.
They aim to bring positive attention to the family through academic, athletic, or other achievements.
This role can mask underlying family issues and distract from problems.
The Scapegoat (or Black Sheep):
This child often gets blamed for the family’s problems and might act out or engage in rebellious behavior.
They divert attention away from other family issues by being the focus of negative attention.
This role can create a self-fulfilling prophecy, where the child lives up to the negative expectations placed upon them.

The Lost Child:
Typically quiet and withdrawn, the lost child avoids conflict and keeps to themselves.
They often feel invisible or neglected, fading into the background to avoid adding to the family’s stress.
This role can lead to feelings of loneliness and difficulty forming close relationships.
The Mascot (or Clown):
This child uses humor and playfulness to defuse tension and lighten the mood in the family.
Their antics can serve as a distraction from serious issues or conflicts.
While this role can bring temporary relief, it often prevents deeper problems from being addressed.
The Caretaker (or Enabler):
This child takes on a nurturing role, caring for siblings or even parents, especially in families with addiction or mental health issues.
They put others’ needs before their own, often at the expense of their own well-being.
This role can lead to codependency and difficulty setting boundaries in future relationships.
The Mediator (or Peacekeeper):
This child attempts to maintain harmony within the family, often mediating conflicts between family members.
They strive to keep everyone happy and avoid confrontations.
This role can result in the child neglecting their own needs and feelings to keep the peace.
The Golden Child (or Favorite):
This child is often idealized by one or both parents and can do no wrong in their eyes.
They may feel immense pressure to live up to high expectations and maintain their favored status.
This role can create resentment among siblings and foster a sense of entitlement or insecurity in the child.

These roles can be adaptive responses to the family dynamics and can have lasting impacts on a child’s development and future relationships. Understanding these roles can help in recognizing the underlying needs and addressing the issues that lead children to adopt them.
Ultimately knowing your childhood role can help you break limiting beliefs and triggers, tap into your strengths, develop emotional intelligence and achieve long term success and happiness.
If you want to explore this further, reach out to Susan Urban who can help you identify your inner resources and bring them to life. Click on this link to book a call
https://calendly.com/susan-urban/45min

How would you know you have overcome PTSD?

PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) doesn’t have to feel like a life sentence, even though many people believe it is. So many people struggle with tough symptoms like anxiety, depression, self-doubt, physical tension, chronic pain, digestive issues, insomnia, flashbacks, nightmares, brain fog, anger, and exhaustion.

Often, they turn to years of talk therapy, medication, or various treatments, but sadly, they don’t always get the relief they’re seeking.

Through my self-developed hypnotherapy process, I’ve seen incredible, fast, and powerful results in helping people overcome PTSD symptoms.

How Will You Know When You’ve Overcome PTSD?
After this effective hypnotherapy transformation, here are some of the positive changes people experience:

-Peaceful Sleep: Nightmares and flashbacks stop, and you begin to sleep peacefully again.
-Comfort in Your Own Skin: You feel more at ease and confident in yourself.
-Emotional Freedom: Past events no longer trigger strong emotional reactions—this is a huge relief!
-Overall Calm: You start to feel calmer and more peaceful in your daily life.
-Letting Go of Negativity: You release feelings of blame, shame, anger, resentment, hurt, guilt, and fear.
-Freedom from Limiting Beliefs: Old, harmful and disempowering beliefs that held you back are replaced with empowering ones.
-Stronger Relationships: You reconnect on a deeper, more intimate level with the people you care about.
These are just some of the benefits, but the impact of hypnotherapy can truly be life-changing.

If you have any questions or are curious about how this can work for you, I’m here to help!

Have you ever felt like something is holding you back from reaching your financial goals? Maybe you struggle to save money, or you have trouble asking for what you’re worth at work. 

I once worked with a client who had no trouble earning money, but as soon as she did, she would spend it impulsively on things she didn’t really need. This cycle left her feeling guilty and ashamed, and she often found herself broke again. She repeated this pattern for years until she finally uncovered the root cause behind it.

These struggles are due to what’s known as “money blocks.” The good news is that hypnotherapy can help you overcome these blocks and start achieving the financial success you deserve.

What Are “Money Blocks”?

“Money blocks” are negative beliefs or feelings about money that stop you from achieving your financial goals. These blocks can come from past experiences, cultural beliefs, or even things you heard growing up, like “money doesn’t grow on trees” or “rich people are greedy.” These kinds of thoughts can get stuck in your subconscious mind and affect the way you handle money without you even realizing it.

For example, if you believe that money is hard to come by, you might find it difficult to save or earn more money. Or if you think that wealthy people are bad, you might unconsciously avoid opportunities to increase your income. These are just a few examples of how money blocks can hold you back.

How Hypnotherapy Can Help

Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool for breaking down money blocks. Here’s how it works:

• We get to access the Subconscious Mind: During a hypnotherapy session, you enter a relaxed state where your subconscious mind becomes more open to positive suggestions. This is where those deep-seated money blocks are stored, so it’s the perfect time to address them.
• We get to reprogram your Negative Beliefs: In this relaxed state, we can help you replace negative beliefs about money with positive ones. For instance, if you’ve always thought, “I’ll never be rich,” hypnotherapy can help you start thinking, “I am capable of achieving financial success.”
• You get to build Confidence: Hypnotherapy can also boost your confidence when it comes to making financial decisions. Whether it’s asking for a raise, starting a new business, or just sticking to a budget, increased confidence can help you make better choices and feel more in control of your financial life.
• Finally reduce Stress Around Money: Many people feel anxious or stressed when it comes to money. Hypnotherapy can help you relax and feel more at ease when dealing with financial matters, making it easier to manage your money effectively.

Money blocks can keep you from reaching your financial potential, but hypnotherapy offers a way to break free from those negative beliefs. By addressing these blocks at the subconscious level, you can start to feel more confident, make better financial decisions, and achieve the success you’ve always wanted.

If you’ve been struggling with money, I would love to help you to change your mindset and start moving toward your financial goals. My favorite part about hypnotherapy is that it’s a safe, effective, and natural way to unlock your full potential and create a healthier relationship with money.

These days chronic stress is something that many people deal with everyday unfortunately. It’s the kind of stress that doesn’t just go away on its own and can make life feel overwhelming. If you’re feeling this way, you might be wondering if hypnotherapy could help. Helping people overcome chronic anxiety happens to be my specialty. Let’s explore how hypnotherapy works and if it can really make a difference for chronic stress for you.

What Is Chronic Stress?

First, it’s important to understand what chronic stress is. Chronic stress is when you feel stressed all the time. It’s not just a one-time thing, like being nervous before a big presentation. Instead, it’s an ongoing feeling of pressure and anxiety that can affect your body and mind. Over time, chronic stress can lead to serious health problems like headaches, sleep issues, digestive disturbances, and even heart problems.

What Is Hypnotherapy?

Hypnotherapy is a type of therapy that uses relaxation and focused attention to help you make changes in your thoughts and behaviors. During your hypnotherapy session, I guide you into a relaxed state where your mind is more open to positive suggestions. You’re still aware of what’s happening, but you’re also deeply focused. In other words, you are fully awake and alert.

How Can Hypnotherapy Help with Chronic Stress?

Hypnotherapy can be very helpful for managing chronic stress. Here’s how:

• Breaking the Cycle: One of the main benefits of hypnotherapy is its ability to break the cycle of chronic stress. By accessing your subconscious mind, we can help you identify and release underlying fears or anxieties that keep your stress levels high.
• Reinforcing Positive Changes: Hypnotherapy can reinforce positive behavior changes. You can learn to stay calm and in control in stressful situations, improve your self-esteem and self confidence, and develop a more optimistic outlook on life.
• Physical Relaxation: Hypnotherapy includes deep relaxation techniques and life coping skills, which can help reduce the physical symptoms of stress like muscle tension, headaches, and fatigue.

What to Expect in a Hypnotherapy Session

During a hypnotherapy session, you’ll typically start with a conversation about your stress and what you hope to achieve. Then, I will guide you into a relaxed, trance-like state. You’ll remain fully aware and in control, but you’ll be deeply focused and open to suggestions that will cause a positive long lasting change. 

Final Thoughts

Chronic stress can make life difficult, but hypnotherapy can help rapidly. It’s a natural way to manage stress and can make a big difference in how you feel. If you’re curious about hypnotherapy, consider giving it a go.