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If you’ve tried everything…
If you’ve spent money, time, energy, and still feel like nothing truly worked…

You’re not crazy. 

You’re not broken. 

And you’re definitely not alone.

I work with people every day who come to me as their last resort.

And they all say the same thing:

Maybe you’ve done therapy. Coaching. Courses. Meditation.
You’ve read the books. Listened to the podcasts.

And yet, you still feel stuck. 

You still wake up with the same anxiety, the same self-doubt, the same block that no one seems to know how to move.

And maybe now, you’re scared to try one more thing.

I get it.

Here’s what most people don’t know:

You can’t fix a subconscious block with logic.
You can’t ‘talk’ your way out of something that lives deep in your nervous system.
Because most of what’s running your life — your fear, your patterns, your triggers — isn’t you… it’s a program your brain picked up long ago when it was just trying to keep you safe.

That’s what I help people change — not just at the surface level, but at the root.

We don’t push. 

We don’t hustle. 

We rewire.

I know words like hypnotherapy or subconscious reprogramming can sound strange or even triggering — especially if you’ve been burned before.
 

But this isn’t about mind control or woo-woo promises.
 

This is about working with your brain’s natural ability to learn, change and heal — using methods backed by neuroscience, neuroplasticity, safety, and compassion.

When we change the subconscious program, people stop fighting with themselves.
 

Anxiety fades. 

Confidence rises.

You start to feel like yourself — but without the old pain.

I’ve watched people who’ve suffered for 10, 20, 30 years finally feel calm, clear, and powerful — sometimes in just one or two sessions.

If this speaks to you… if something in you feels even a little curious or hopeful again… I invite you to reach out.

Just one conversation could change everything.

And if it’s not the right fit, I’ll still help you find your next best step.

You’ve done the hard part by getting this far. You don’t have to do the rest alone.  

I just recorded a short video for you on one of my favorite topics: how to use the power of your mind to shape your future.​
It’s simple, powerful, and backed by real science — not just theory.

➡️ Watch it here: https://youtu.be/QpGHbatri80

In the video, I also mention a fascinating study by Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer, where elderly men physically reversed signs of aging just by mentally placing themselves in a more youthful environment.
Their posture improved, their vision sharpened, and even their confidence shifted — just from engaging their mind differently.

Here’s a quick video on that study too (it’s incredible):
➡️ https://youtu.be/fZffBAefwUM?si=_6_Bo-KLZKpKA8uA

This is the kind of power we all have access to — and I can’t wait for you to tap into it.

Let me know what you think after you watch!

With possibility,

Susan Urban

You know you’re smart. You know you’re capable. So why do you keep getting passed up for the raise? Why are other people moving ahead… while you’re still stuck in the same spot, secretly wondering if something’s just wrong with you?”

Most days, you pep talk yourself in the mirror.

Other days, you beat yourself up:

“Maybe I’m not confident enough.”

“Maybe I talk too fast.”

“Maybe my boss just doesn’t like me.”

But deep down… it feels like something’s holding you back, and you don’t even know what it is. It’s like an invisible wall that you keep hitting over and over again.

Let me tell you a secret:

You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re not bad at your job.

What’s happening is this:

A part of your brain — the subconscious part — is trying to protect you.

It might be replaying some old rule like:

“Don’t speak up — it’s not safe.”

“Don’t stand out — you’ll get judged.”

“Don’t ask for more — you’ll get in trouble.”

And here’s the wild part:

You didn’t choose this. It’s just a program your brain picked up somewhere along the way — maybe from a teacher, a parent, a moment you don’t even remember.

Now imagine your brain is like a phone.

You’ve got an app running in the background that says:

“Stay small. Don’t risk it.”

And every time you try to speak up or ask for that raise — the app shuts you down.

Hypnotherapy is how we go into your phone… and gently delete that old app.

It’s not scary. You don’t have to talk for hours.

You just close your eyes, relax, and we help your brain let go of the old stuff — and install a better app. One that says:

“You’re ready.”

“You’ve got this.”

“Let’s go get what you deserve.”

You could spend years trying to figure this out by yourself…

Or we could rewire that block in just a couple of sessions.

It’s not magic — it’s how your brain works. And it works fast.

If this hits home for you, message me. I’ve got you.

What’s Really Going On in the Mind of Someone Who Fears Speaking Up?

You see them at meetings — staying quiet, nodding along, maybe even rehearsing a comment in their head but never actually saying it.

Or maybe that someone is you.

Fear of speaking shows up in all kinds of places: public speaking, job interviews, sales calls, Zoom meetings, even casual conversations or avoiding confrontations.

It’s easy to assume this is just about nerves. But what’s really going on beneath the surface is much deeper.

What They’re Thinking on the Surface

Most people dealing with fear of speaking are caught in a mental loop that sounds something like:

“What if I mess up?”

“I’m going to forget what I wanted to say.”

“They’ll think I sound stupid.”

“I hate how my voice sounds.”

“Why would anyone listen to me?”

But underneath those thoughts are even more powerful beliefs that were often formed years — even decades — ago.

What nobody tells you – The Deeper Truth:

Our Subconscious Beliefs Are Running the Show
Here’s what the subconscious is often whispering in the background:

“It’s not safe to be seen or heard.”

“If I make a mistake, I’ll be rejected or humiliated.”

“I have to be perfect, or people won’t respect me.”

“I don’t deserve to take up space.”

These beliefs usually didn’t come out of nowhere. Often, they started in childhood — maybe someone was laughed at, corrected harshly, or simply not listened to when they tried to speak. The brain registered that moment as danger and filed it away as “Better stay quiet next time.”

Even if someone had a relatively positive childhood, they might have absorbed unspoken messages like:

“Be polite.”

“Don’t interrupt.”

“Speak only when spoken to.”

“Don’t draw attention to yourself.”

Over time, those messages become subconscious patterns.

And those patterns create fear when it’s time to speak up as an adult — especially in situations that feel high-stakes or vulnerable.

What the Body Feels

When someone’s about to speak and that old programming kicks in, it’s not just mental — it’s physical:

Racing heart

Dry mouth

Shaky hands

Tight chest

Tunnel vision

Total brain fog

And then comes the self-judgment: “Why am I like this?”
But this isn’t a flaw. It’s a protective pattern.

The Good News

The fear isn’t who you are — it’s something your subconscious learned to do to keep you safe. And because it was learned, it can be unlearned.

I’ve worked with people who spent years avoiding the spotlight, only to find their voice again in just a session or two — not by pushing through fear, but by rewiring it at the source.

If you’re tired of shrinking yourself to feel safe, just know this:

Your voice matters. It’s safe to be seen. And you don’t have to do this alone.

Ready to finally free yourself from the fear? Let’s talk.

Imagine a child. Not just any child—you.

You’re small. You’re bright-eyed. You feel everything with intensity. The world is alive, and so are you. But slowly, something shifts.

You cry, and someone tells you, “Stop being dramatic.”

You express excitement, and they say, “Calm down.”

You feel hurt, and they dismiss it with, “It wasn’t that bad.”

You’re scared, and they mock you with, “Don’t be such a baby.”

You do well in school and they threaten you with, “Don’t outshine your siblings.”

So you learn.

You learn that your emotions are wrong.

You learn that your voice is too much.

You learn that your truth is inconvenient.

And without realizing it, you begin to abandon yourself.

You Weren’t Just Ignored—You Were Emotionally Exiled

This isn’t about being “disrespected.” This is something deeper, something more insidious.

You were gaslit into doubting your own reality.

You were conditioned to silence your own needs.

You were told that what you feel doesn’t matter.

You were taught to swallow your pain like poison, hoping one day it would make you worthy.

But all it did was teach you how to shrink.

And now, as an adult, that same wound still breathes beneath your skin.

You second-guess yourself in every decision.

You apologize for things that aren’t your fault.

You feel guilty for resting, for existing, for wanting more.

You chase validation like a starving dog, because deep down, you were trained to believe that love is earned through suffering and people pleasing.

And when you feel lost, broken, or empty inside, you think the problem is you.

It’s not.

The Silent Epidemic: How This Wound Shapes Your Entire Life

This is not just a “rough childhood.” This is the root cause of anxiety, burnout, depression, addictions, fears, and deep-seated feelings of inadequacy.

Why? Because when you are forced to abandon your emotions, you are forced to abandon yourself.

And a person who doesn’t trust themselves can never feel safe in the world.

This is why therapy, mindset work, and positive thinking fail for so many people. They’re trying to “think” their way out of something that was programmed into their subconscious long before they even had words for it.

Real healing doesn’t happen by faking confidence or repeating affirmations in the mirror. It happens when your subconscious and conscious mind stop fighting each other.

It happens when you unlearn the lie that your emotions make you weak.

It happens when you reclaim the voice that was stolen from you.

It happens when you stop abandoning yourself just to belong.

And when that happens? Everything changes.

Because healing isn’t about becoming someone new.

It’s about remembering who you were before the world told you who to be.

If this hit you like a ton of bricks, it’s because this is the truth you’ve always felt but never had the words for.

And no, you’re not broken.

You’ve just been programmed to betray yourself—but that programming can be undone.

This is exactly what I help people with. Not surface-level fixes, not mindset tricks, but deep, subconscious reprogramming that sets you free at the core.

If you’re done carrying the weight of this and ready to reclaim yourself, I’m the person who will help you do it. Let’s talk.