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Imagine!

Think about a particular goal you have right now and imagine…

If that goal were already achieved, what would it do to your

level of confidence, self worth and self esteem

health

wealth

relationships

family

friendships

status in society

career

purpose and passion

happiness

level of freedom

level of security

social connections

level of respect and recognition from others

self expression?

If you can see that it would positively impact all these categories, what specifically would motivate you most to start taking action on achieving this goal?

What’s important to you about achieving this goal?

Finally, what is the smallest thing you can do right now, that will make the biggest impact in you actually achieving this goal?

I hope this little exercise helped you to motivate yourself to start taking action toward reaching your goal.

5 Life Principles to live by

  1. Learn to become unreasonable.
  2. You don’t get what you want in life, you get what you are committed to.
  3. It’s not your fault that things are difficult or that you are at a disadvantage, but it is your responsibility.
  4. Success is not built on convenience, success is built on commitment
  5. It’s a myth to think you are not in control. You are always in control of how you respond to something.

12 Ways to an unfulfilled life…

12 Ways to an unfulfilled life…I hope you can appreciate the sense of humor and sarcasm

1. Keep apologizing for who you are, and for everything you say

2. Value others opinions over your own

3. Don’t trust your gut. Check in with others first

4. Keep avoiding difficult situations, conversations and challenges

5. Do not take responsibility for your actions and decisions – blame others      instead to stay powerless and in a victim-mentality

6. Feel guilty for your actions and desires, feel ashamed for having them, because you are not worth it

7. Feel guilty about the past and things you did

8. Do not speak up. Stay quiet and don’t stand up for what you believe in, under any circumstances.

9. Convince yourself “ I can not change – this is just who I am”

10. Keep yourself busy with noise, news, unproductive tasks, gossip, negativity, toxic people, blamers, complainers, excuses, and busy work

11. Keep pleasing others and just forget about your own wishes

12. Do not do the work and do not invest into your own growth

🔎🤫Do any of these sound familiar? Let’s not do that. I was guilty for at least half of these just a few years ago until I learned how a mindset like this can really ruin our life.

What “Let Me Hypnotize You” Really Means—And Why Hypnotherapy Is So Powerful

Something interesting recently caught my attention while speaking with a few folks. I believe some people might have the wrong idea of what “Let Me Hypnotize You” Really Means, while I would also like to enlighten you to why hypnotherapy is so powerful.


Many people get the wrong idea when they hear, “Let me hypnotize you.”
It sounds mysterious, maybe even a little scary, and as if the hypnotherapist could somehow take “control” of another individual’s mind, but hypnotherapy is actually one of the most powerful, natural, and effective tools for creating fast and lasting change.

Hypnotherapy isn’t about someone taking control of your mind.


Instead, it’s a deeply relaxing process that helps you tap into the power of your own subconscious—the part of your mind where your habits, patterns, and beliefs are controlled from and stored. Through this, you can address the root cause of challenges you’re facing, whether it’s unwanted behaviors, reactions to stress or triggers, or even limiting thoughts that have held you back for years.

Here are just a few of the benefits of hypnotherapy:
✅Rapid Change: Unlike traditional methods that can take months or years, hypnotherapy often works in just a few sessions.
🔥Breaking Unwanted Habits: Whether it’s smoking, emotional eating, or other habits, hypnotherapy helps you reprogram your mind for healthier patterns.
👉Releasing Triggers and Emotional Patterns: You can let go of the emotional reactions that keep repeating in your life, so you feel more in control.
🙌Boosting Confidence: Hypnotherapy can empower you to think and feel more confidently in any situation, especially in areas like public speaking, performance, and social interactions.

In short, hypnotherapy is about helping you take charge of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It’s a tool that works with the natural abilities of your mind to make real, positive changes—quickly and effectively.


So, the next time you hear “Let me hypnotize you,” think of it as an opportunity to unlock your potential and live with more freedom, confidence, and peace.

If you’re ready to experience these benefits for yourself, I’m here to guide you every step of the way!

What Role did you play as a Child?


Understanding the role you played as a child can be a powerful tool for personal growth and success as an adult. The dynamics you experienced in your family often shape your beliefs, behaviors, and habits, which can either empower or limit you in adulthood.
In many families, children may adopt specific roles to gain acceptance, attention, or approval, especially in dysfunctional or stressful environments. Here are some common stereotypical roles that children might assume:

The Hero (or Overachiever):
Often the oldest child, this individual takes on a lot of responsibility and strives for perfection.
They aim to bring positive attention to the family through academic, athletic, or other achievements.
This role can mask underlying family issues and distract from problems.
The Scapegoat (or Black Sheep):
This child often gets blamed for the family’s problems and might act out or engage in rebellious behavior.
They divert attention away from other family issues by being the focus of negative attention.
This role can create a self-fulfilling prophecy, where the child lives up to the negative expectations placed upon them.

The Lost Child:
Typically quiet and withdrawn, the lost child avoids conflict and keeps to themselves.
They often feel invisible or neglected, fading into the background to avoid adding to the family’s stress.
This role can lead to feelings of loneliness and difficulty forming close relationships.
The Mascot (or Clown):
This child uses humor and playfulness to defuse tension and lighten the mood in the family.
Their antics can serve as a distraction from serious issues or conflicts.
While this role can bring temporary relief, it often prevents deeper problems from being addressed.
The Caretaker (or Enabler):
This child takes on a nurturing role, caring for siblings or even parents, especially in families with addiction or mental health issues.
They put others’ needs before their own, often at the expense of their own well-being.
This role can lead to codependency and difficulty setting boundaries in future relationships.
The Mediator (or Peacekeeper):
This child attempts to maintain harmony within the family, often mediating conflicts between family members.
They strive to keep everyone happy and avoid confrontations.
This role can result in the child neglecting their own needs and feelings to keep the peace.
The Golden Child (or Favorite):
This child is often idealized by one or both parents and can do no wrong in their eyes.
They may feel immense pressure to live up to high expectations and maintain their favored status.
This role can create resentment among siblings and foster a sense of entitlement or insecurity in the child.

These roles can be adaptive responses to the family dynamics and can have lasting impacts on a child’s development and future relationships. Understanding these roles can help in recognizing the underlying needs and addressing the issues that lead children to adopt them.
Ultimately knowing your childhood role can help you break limiting beliefs and triggers, tap into your strengths, develop emotional intelligence and achieve long term success and happiness.
If you want to explore this further, reach out to Susan Urban who can help you identify your inner resources and bring them to life. Click on this link to book a call
https://calendly.com/susan-urban/45min